NMG

1. Vision
Marry someone that believes strongly in your vision.The person doesn't need to do same profession like you. However the person MUST have kin interest in your vision. It will inspire you and help the two of you bond together in an unusual way.

2. Mutual respect
Does the person respect you, your opinion and family?
Do you feel
free when you are with the person or you always have to pretend whenever you are together?
Does he/she abuse you physically or emotionally?
Is the person proud of you when you are in the company of others?
A marriage that has no mutual respect has a high tendency of break-up.

3. Friendship
Does the person inspire or motivate you?
When you marry your friend (someone with whom you understand each other and your spirit connect),chances are that you will enjoy living together as partner. When you and your close friend quarrel, you are quick to resolve it. That is how it should be also in marriage.

4. Avoid comparison
Never compare your husband with your father or ex. Same way, never compare your wife with your mother or sister. They are two different people. whenyou start comparing your partner or partner to-be, with someone else, you cannot be happy in such marriage. Whatever qualities you desire, go for someone that has it.

5. Manage your differences
Most times people want to marry someone like them. My recommendation is marry someone who is opposite of you (ie. Who has the qualities you are lacking). In that way you will be able to complement each other.

6. Mutual understanding
Your partner have different background, hence, both of you will see things differently.
Be willing to shift ground and your partner must be willing to do same .
If your partner truly loves you, he will not want to always have his way.
Be willing to learn his language, favourite game, eat his/her kind of food, dress in a way that appeal to his/her fantasy etc
.If your partner to-be always want to have his/her way in every discussion, watch it!

7. Truth and open communication

8. Genuine love
Can the person stay with you in bad times?
Does he/she love you for who you are or just because of sex, money or selfish purpose?
Do you enjoy staying with him/her?
Does he/she forgive when offended?
Wonderful marriage is not made of two perfect people but two forgivers

9. Testimony of others
What does other people feel or say about him/her?
Does your pastor, parent and friends approve of him/her.
When in love, there are many things we wouldn't see which is obvious to others.

10. God factor
Is the relationship based on God's principles or selfish motive?
Does your spirit agree with him or her?
Do you consult God who is the author of marriage?
If your marriage is good without God, I assure you, it will be best with him

Above all, learn from other peoples mistake and avoid repeating it.